The Spinster, the failure

My father calls me a spinster.
My is concerned that I will live alone.
My father love me, and his concern is reflected in a rude way.
He tells me in a humiliating way,
" You spinster, you failure."
Are women in your age are married, have childern.
You are a failure, a fatty, a clumsy girl.
You do not how to open a house,
you do not how to get the love of men,
you do not know how to get their interest, their gaze or even  their respect,
who will marry a 40,
who will marry a ton,
who will marry a failue.
And he forgets that have success areas, that I am humanbeing.


Dad do not call me a failure.
Am I not the dynamo of the house,
Am I not the care giver of an Alzheimer patient.
Am I not a Ph.D. holder.

I was created by Allah for a purpose.

I do not need a husband.


Tell me you need to lose weight to be healthy,
to improve your professional opportunities,
to be in shape,
to be respected,
to be a role  model for my students,
to cut the weight that cuffs me and imprisons  me,



Tell me so in a nice way.

Tell me that I am a success but I need to work on my weaknesses.
I need to work on my weight, on my appearance, to be more successful.


Do not call me the spinster, the failure.